Learn to Listen
When we learn to listen, a whole new world opens up to us and we begin to enjoy the fruits of our ‘listening labor’ that comes from the improvement of our relationships.
If we learn to listen, people begin to treat us differently. Human begins have a pre-programmed desire to be heard, and even deeper, we have all want to talk! And our favorite thing to talk about is ourselves.
Deep down, we all feel, at our core, that the world revolves around us, and this is not necessarily a conscious selfish choice that we make. It’s just a natural, subconscious idea that whatever is going on in our world is the most important thing happening at any given time. It’s human nature.
Here’s the great part. If you learn to use this understanding and these facts to your benefit, you get to be part of the small percentage of ‘slightly evolved’ and compassionate, understanding, and empathetic individuals that people need in their life. When someone feels heard, they are appreciative and the benefits are innumerable: they respect you more, treat you differently, and trust you more… just to name a few.
One of the huge benefits that manifests when we learn to listen is that we learn new things. We cannot learn while we are talking. Here is one of my favorite quotes by Lao Tzu.
Those who know don’t talk. Those who talk don’t know. ~ Lao Tzu
This speaks to the idea that God gave us two ears and one mouth and that we must use them in proportion.
I speak in my book about how the greatest spiritual leaders all went off into isolation in order to meditate, pray and listen to their heart and soul in order to hear that Still Small Voice. In moments of silence we are all connected. We all need to listen more than we talk, not only to others but to our own thoughts and our own soul.